not the right beat

I never met his friends; he never met mine.

I dated EDM Guy on/off for about 3 months. Initially, I was interested in him because of his stats. He was educated, stable career, and Asian. Pretty much a guy I could probably bring home, if it worked. But after I met him, I knew that my mom wouldn’t like him because of his tattoos (on his chest, visible under his collarbone) and piercings (on his lips). Still he was engaging enough and certainly different in an interesting way for me to keep seeing him.

I was never really sure where I stood with him. I believe he’d probably say the same about me. We talked about a lot of things, but never really discussed us. I was fine with this because I was uncertain if I wanted to progress to the next step, exclusivity.

I don’t really know if he was seeing another girl (I never asked). He mentioned some girls he hung out with by name, though I suspect they were just friends. He was a pretty nice guy and I couldn’t really see him saying the names to provoke a reaction out of me. I admit it did ruffle me a little, but not enough to ever bring it up or even insinuate. I liked spending time with him; I liked him as a person, a friend; but I didn’t like him enough to only date him.

A few times, he’d bring up issues with me about how I never initiated or how when we were communicating via text I’d suddenly drop off. These were kind of nagging complaints a boyfriend would make to their girlfriend, or truthfully, what a girlfriend would say to their boyfriend. I teased him about being a girl (and I did have a bad habit of trying to get under his skin because he said nothing really bothered him), but it did bother him.

The issue was: I wasn’t his girlfriend and he wasn’t my boyfriend.

Maybe he wanted to be at one point (or not) and maybe a little part of me might have been able to be persuaded (but probably not). But I don’t think we liked each other enough to really push it. And so, it ended.

I have nothing negative to say about him. He was a genuinely nice guy, but he wasn’t a good fit for me. I recognized it fairly early and it was kind of bad of me to keep seeing him when I knew he wasn’t what I wanted. But I did enjoy his company. He was fun and easy to be with. I’ll admit, I miss him a little.

Hey EDM Guy, I wish you the best.


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